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Self-identifying weirdo here. I was scolded in a workplace once for having 'too many' creative pursuits. As if I alone was hoarding all the creativity in the room. Apparently I was only allowed to sew and wasn't permitted to speak on any other topic. Maybe they should have put a memo up in the staff kitchen about that.

I beat around the bush when it came to writing my dream subject. Over the years I tried many different ways to parlay that inclination into something on-trend, marketable and of wider interest. Finally, I realised if I wasn't writing it how I saw it, then I may as well not write at all. There had to be something in it for me, you can't go about the craft of writing chasing trends.

I lamented the fact I was born in the wrong century and longed for a gentler time period. Then I found an artist/writer who literally stitches his own books together and published them start to finish. Right down to securing them into a cover. Okay, that's an idea then. He's very successful at it.

Most of the limits on us creatives are self imposed. I'm learning to take the bliinders off and see more possibilities than just the ones presented by mainstream.

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Thank you! I feel like my best stories are the ones that I’m afraid to tell for fear of “what they’ll think.” I’m looking forward to seeing what happens when I give myself permission to tell the truth. H

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When Cali says it’s ok, boy is it ok! I say this because I know what it means to have the complete support of one person. It goes such a long way! Thank you so much for this post ♥️

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Thank you for this permission, Cali! It's amazing how we need to receive permission from others, in order to then give it to ourselves. This morning I was thinking how I just want to read and write and do tai chi and lead my book club -- even tho that's not how society tells me I "should" function or can earn a decent living. And yet...somehow I persevere. :)

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"Why couldn’t I just knuckle down and continue in my role a software consultant? I was good at it, people respected my skills and if I hadn’t messed around with creative stuff and working part-time for years, I’d have enough money now for a very comfortable early retirement." ---- This is 100% me! It took me a long time to stop saying "if I'd kept that job I had 20 years ago for 5 more years, I'd have been financially independent". It took me years to deeply get it - I COULD NOT have done that. My spirit was dying. That was someone else's path but it I literally could not have done it.

I think my permission slips need to be: You have permission not to be so serious. You have permission to be silly and simple and childlike in the way you think and write. You have permission

Mary Oliver says, "you just have to let the soft animal of your body love what it loves". I love that line so much.

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