Dearest Cali. Sending you lots of love and Daimoku from india. Sincerely applaud your will to go buy that Christmas tree. Will send prayers that your life stays strong and that it reflects in your husband too as he recovers. Take care and keep writing.
Dear Cali, I can't begin to understand the struggles and emotions you feel.
But what I want to say is there are things going on in Graham's brain that are positive, although they might seem negative to you.
There are thought processes going on in Graham's brain, that weren't there before.
Is there a realisation of what's happened to him and he hates what he has become?
"I don't want to eat yoghurt like a baby, I'd just rather have the nutrition drip".
" how can you be affectionate towards me, when I'm like this?".
"I cannot speak and tell you how frustrating this is, so I'm angry".
I really hope that these are signs of his brain coming back to some sort of reality. That's really good!!!
You're going to have the patience of a Saint, as if you haven't already, but these acts of refusal, annoyance, anger.. are maybe letting you know, there's a person in there. Hope he continues to piss you off!! Much love, Jo, xxx
So sorry to hear about your struggles. My mother went through something similar with my dad, though he wasn't nearly as badly off as your Graham is. Before he could come home from long-term rehab, we had to build a new, downstairs bathroom for him, and she also knew she just couldn't physically cope with his care. Her solution was to invite my son, who was struggling with his young adult life himself at that point, to live with them to help with his grandfather. It turned out to be a win-win-win for all of them. I hope you're able to come up with a similarly wonderful solution when the time comes.
I’m marveling at how well you are doing through this incredibly difficult journey. I suppose it doesn’t always feel like it, but it sure looks like it from here. I’m really glad you don’t live in the US. We just have so many fewer resources to deal with this. I continue to hold you in my heart.
Hi Cali, Your post brings back so many memories - I know how difficult these times are. Like Ramona, I'm glad to see that you are writing, I know how helpful it is for me. My best wishes for you and Graham and know that if you ever want to chat, II'm here.
Wow! You really have your hands full! I hope you have some help, at least part of the time, and that you're taking time for yourself.
I think there are magical healing qualities in writing, and I'm glad you're taking your medicine! I wanted to say I 'enjoyed' what you've written, but some of it tells me that's not where you are. Still, there's catharsis in blowing off steam, and this is as good a place as any to do it.
I'll be here cheerleading whenever you might need it. ❤️
I'm sorry it's been so painful. I can't imagine the exhaustion you must feel -- physically and emotionally. I can't wait to see your Christmas tree. With love, Christine
Dearest Cali. Sending you lots of love and Daimoku from india. Sincerely applaud your will to go buy that Christmas tree. Will send prayers that your life stays strong and that it reflects in your husband too as he recovers. Take care and keep writing.
Dear Cali, I can't begin to understand the struggles and emotions you feel.
But what I want to say is there are things going on in Graham's brain that are positive, although they might seem negative to you.
There are thought processes going on in Graham's brain, that weren't there before.
Is there a realisation of what's happened to him and he hates what he has become?
"I don't want to eat yoghurt like a baby, I'd just rather have the nutrition drip".
" how can you be affectionate towards me, when I'm like this?".
"I cannot speak and tell you how frustrating this is, so I'm angry".
I really hope that these are signs of his brain coming back to some sort of reality. That's really good!!!
You're going to have the patience of a Saint, as if you haven't already, but these acts of refusal, annoyance, anger.. are maybe letting you know, there's a person in there. Hope he continues to piss you off!! Much love, Jo, xxx
So sorry to hear about your struggles. My mother went through something similar with my dad, though he wasn't nearly as badly off as your Graham is. Before he could come home from long-term rehab, we had to build a new, downstairs bathroom for him, and she also knew she just couldn't physically cope with his care. Her solution was to invite my son, who was struggling with his young adult life himself at that point, to live with them to help with his grandfather. It turned out to be a win-win-win for all of them. I hope you're able to come up with a similarly wonderful solution when the time comes.
I’m marveling at how well you are doing through this incredibly difficult journey. I suppose it doesn’t always feel like it, but it sure looks like it from here. I’m really glad you don’t live in the US. We just have so many fewer resources to deal with this. I continue to hold you in my heart.
Hi Cali, Your post brings back so many memories - I know how difficult these times are. Like Ramona, I'm glad to see that you are writing, I know how helpful it is for me. My best wishes for you and Graham and know that if you ever want to chat, II'm here.
Wow! You really have your hands full! I hope you have some help, at least part of the time, and that you're taking time for yourself.
I think there are magical healing qualities in writing, and I'm glad you're taking your medicine! I wanted to say I 'enjoyed' what you've written, but some of it tells me that's not where you are. Still, there's catharsis in blowing off steam, and this is as good a place as any to do it.
I'll be here cheerleading whenever you might need it. ❤️
I'm sorry it's been so painful. I can't imagine the exhaustion you must feel -- physically and emotionally. I can't wait to see your Christmas tree. With love, Christine
My heart goes out to you, Cali. It must be so tough. I hope that Graham continues to improve and you can keep strong for you both. 💕💐